Nuke 'emIt is almost always said that a joint family is better than a nuclear family, and that is why our culture is superior to whatever-other-culture-you-hate.
Joint families are supposed to hand down culture, they are supposed to make you learn sacrifice and all that. But, as I have been painfully experiencing, while joint families also hand down all the worst part of the previous generation.
For instance, most people I know are racists, casteists and linguistic and religious bigots. Not because they want to be, but because they've learned all that in a family atmosphere. During my stay in IIT hostel, I could still see Tamilians grouping with each other, Telugu speakers grouping together and so on. People who have worked with colleagues of difference castes and languages and cultures and religions, behave in one way in office and talk about the other caste/language/religion in a different way at home. I can't imagine how somebody can look down on me in the usual discourse of life.
The elder generation which was supposed to hand down the good parts screwed up. They failed us, and we failed ourselves.